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We have the choice

We have a Choice has grown out of a voluntary citizens’ initiative by Kristin Verellen – who lost her life partner in the attacks of Maelbeek on 22 March 2016 – and a circle of friends. In a world where harshness, polarization, extremism, blind violence and terror lead to traumatizing situations, we want to build a culture of inclusive togetherness inclusion and dialogue.


The Circles, guided by professional facilitators, offer a qualitative moment in which we become still and quiet, then share with each other in words or in silence what is going on inside of us.

In addition “We have the choice” also develops other projects to support its mission.

Planned Circles

“We all contribute to the greater whole”, wrote Gerlinde Flo to Kristin Verellen. She articulates beautifully how we like to put the Circles in the world: as healing rituals that contribute to a society where we know ourselves as connected with each other. You are very welcome to participate in the Open Circles. Here you find the planned circles.




“Thank you for this space to think about our love, our loss and all that we share… It was a moment to come down from our busy-ness, to allow ourselves time and space to reflect and feel, and to share both laughter and tears…. Suzy”

“I treasure these moments of stillness together in the circles.  I feel connected with myself, with the others, with the world.  I can welcome the emotions, stories and reflections that we share in the group, through silence and through words. I return home with more clarity. Dorothy”

Circles & activities

22Mar '20

Online ritual of commemoration and connection • 22 March 2020

  • When Sunday 22 March 2020
    2 pm – 4 pm: ONLINE Eye Gazing Experiment: You can participate via this link: www.human.online. You can easily create an account.
    4:30 pm – 6 pm: ONLINE Circle ritual of We have the choice. You can participate via this link: https://zoom.us/j/519436079. You can login online from 16h15 so you can test the connection. Start Circle at 16h30.
    Make sure you have a good wifi connection, preferably via a computer or laptop with camera.
  • What Four years after the attacks in Brussels and in the midst of corona prevention actions, we are nurturing trust in each other. We have the Choice and Bond zonder Naam invite you to a special ONLINE ritual of connection. Welcome between 14h and 16h to participate in the ONLINE Eye Contact Experiment. Where is the connection between people? Look 1 minute into the eyes of a stranger to find out. One minute eye contact means making real contact with someone else. Without (preliminary) judgements and expectations. Beyond the words. By being in silence with each other in this way, we can experience our shared humanity. Every year people in more than 300 cities worldwide participate in The Eye Gazing Experiment. Bond Zonder Naam joins this international movement as a statement for the importance of deeper human connection in times of polarization. Afterwards you can participate in an ONLINE circle ritual from 16h30 to 18h. The Circle offers you a ritual space to find and share words on your personal experience. The circle helps to stand still, connect with others, become conscious about what is important for you, and to find the force to make authentic choices. Whatever happens, we always have the choice to choose love instead of falling into fear and hardening. The Circle is not
 a usual dialogue, it is about sharing and listening from heart to heart. Everyone can speak, but there is no need to speak. The quality of your presence is enough. The Circles of the voluntary initiative We have the choice create since the attacks of 2016 spaces for standing still and connecting in various intercultural contexts, to promote a sense of community and to prevent further radicalization and violence.
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9Mar '20

Circle with pupils of Sint Victor in Beersel

  • When 9 March 2020
  • Where Saint Victor School, Beersel
  • What Circle among the pupils of the 4th secondary school on the occasion of the theatre performance a Jihad of Love.
  • Participation Only for the pupils involved
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