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We have the choice

We have a Choice has grown out of a voluntary citizens’ initiative by Kristin Verellen – who lost her life partner in the attacks of Maelbeek on 22 March 2016 – and a circle of friends. In a world where intransigence, polarization, extremism, blind violence and terror lead to traumatizing situations, we want to build a culture of inclusive togetherness inclusion and dialogue.


The Circles, guided by professional facilitators, offer a qualitative moment in which we become still and quiet, then share with each other in words or in silence what is going on inside of us.

In addition “We have the choice” also develops other projects to support its mission.

Ramadan Circles

This year also, the Circles were present in Muslim communities in Brussels and Antwerp. Organizations offered an iftar meal to their communities during the month of Ramadan. The iftar meal marks the breaking of the Muslim fast every day at sunset during the holy month of Ramadan. Iftar gatherings are joyous moments of togetherness, with food and drinks being shared, often with a whole community. We organized the Circles just before the meal – as a moment of quiet, introspection and togetherness in Molenbeek, Schaarbeek, Brussels City or Antwerp.




“Thank you for this space to think about our love, our loss and all that we share… It was a moment to come down from our busy-ness, to allow ourselves time and space to reflect and feel, and to share both laughter and tears…. Suzy”

“I treasure these moments of stillness together in the circles.  I feel connected with myself, with the others, with the world.  I can welcome the emotions, stories and reflections that we share in the group, through silence and through words. I return home with more clarity. Dorothy”
18May '18

In the press

Pat Donnez will have an hour-long interview with Kristin Verellen in his Sunday radio show Berg en Dal on May 27 from 10 a.m. to 11 a.m. (in Dutch) A nice interview with Kristin Verellen by Rik Van Puymbroek appeared on March 17 in De Tijd. (in Dutch) You can read and download it here : Kristin Verellen - [...]

Circles & activities

29Sep '18

Open Circle at ‘Leven en/of Dood – Polariteiten ontmoeten elkaar’

  • When saturday 29 september 13h30
  • Where SINT-BAAFSABDIJ, Voorhoutkaai 43 (entrance Coyendanspark), Ghent
  • What We live in a society where everyone feels uncomfortable at the difficult moment of death, we prefer to outsource death professionally and take little time for mourning. ‘Leven en/of Dood – Polariteiten ontmoeten elkaar‘ wants to invite people to consciously reflect on the existential and vulnerable theme of life and death, in dialogue with each other. Life and death have their own value and are at the same time inextricably intertwined. On saturday september 29th you can join a circle of We have the choice at the event.
  • Entrance Free
  • Registration Obligatory
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28Sep '18

Photo-Expo Johan Van Steen at ‘Leven en/of Dood – Polariteiten ontmoeten elkaar’ in Ghent

  • When september 28-30
  • Where SINT-BAAFSABDIJ, Voorhoutkaai 43 (entrance Coyendanspark), Ghent
  • What Johan Van Steen was a passionate photographer. His dream to come out with his photography was abruptly interrupted by the attack of March 22, 2016. Light and Shadow is a tribute to a man who was able to embrace light and shadow in his life and art. Where do Waar blijf ik met dat licht van mij? (Lannoo), a book with photography by Johan Van Steen and poems by Kristin Verellen, is an ode to love, the fragile beauty of life and the deeper connection between people. The book is for sale during the expo.
  • Entrance free
  • More info www.levenenofdood.be
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